8 Ways Alcohol Can Affect Your Sex Life
The relationship between alcohol and sex is tricky. It can help us open up to healthy sexual activities, but there are risks too.
View ArticleIs Body Image Affecting Your Sex Life?
Body image can really mess with our heads—in bed. And for women, criticism of our bodies can have the biggest impact on sexual desire.
View ArticleSex After Divorce: 4 Questions to Ask
Are you divorced and entering the dating scene a decade or two after you last went out for drinks? You are probably wondering about how the sexual game has changed.
View ArticleHow Sexting Can Be Healthy
Sexting has gotten a bad rap—and with good reason. Plenty of people have gotten themselves into hot water by sending inappropriate texts and pics... but here's a reframe.
View Article5 Ideas to Spice Up Your Sex Life
Couples often ask me, as their sex therapist, how they can spice things up in bed. I think this question, most often, is really a request for permission to act on their own ideas.
View ArticleSexual Pain: Six Possible Causes
If sex hurts, you won’t want to do it. It’s estimated that about 20 percent of women suffer vaginal pain with foreplay or intercourse.
View ArticleHow to Stay Sexually Connected During Infertility Treatment
Forty-five percent of couples in treatment to help with infertility report having sexual difficulties. Sex "on the clock" creates pressure, boredom, and more.
View ArticleToxic Cultural Messages to a Woman's Libido
You may not realize that negative messages received throughout a woman’s formative years can have a profound impact on how she sees herself sexually.
View Article5 Mistakes Men Make in Bed
Most men come to sex therapy to learn better techniques. But while it is important to know what she likes specifically, his sexual skill isn’t usually what’s causing the problem.
View Article5 Mistakes Women Make in Bed
Women who think their sex life is lacking often assume it’s because they don’t have a perfect body or that they don't act like a porn star. False.
View ArticleSex When You Have Cancer
For people going through cancer, sex can be a powerful affirmation of aliveness – many patients say it is one of the most important markers for their quality of life.
View ArticleHow to Let Your Partner Know You're Not in the Mood
Every partner initiating sex hopes for an excited reaction from their lover. As long as we are honest, vulnerable, and direct, we can refuse and still stay connected.
View Article5 Tips to Holiday Partying to Keep Sex Hot at Home
With all the fun and festivities coming, ironically, the holiday party is often a minefield for couples.
View Article8 Suggestions to Stop the Pursue-Withdraw Cycle in Sex
You want sex and your partner couldn't care less. Begging for connection only drives your partner further away. Why does this negative cycle get so stuck and what can we do about it?
View Article6 Months for Couples to Cure Premature Ejaculation Together
Premature ejaculation is really about anxiety and the problem is the more you worry about it the worse it gets. Sex problems disconnects couple increasing the the pain.
View ArticleWhy and How to Talk About Sex While Grieving
Grieving is a complex topic. Sex is a complex topic. Talking about both may seem awkward, but for anyone in a relationship, the reality is, sex and grief will eventually converge.
View Article5 Ways to Help a Frustrated Sexual Pursuer
Does one of you push for more frequency and the other withdraws feeling drowned by the requests? Rather than duty sex, here are ways the sexual withdrawer can change the dynamic:
View ArticleTurning Toward Your Partner When They Want Sex and You Don't
For couples, emotional connection and sexual intimacy are dynamically related to each aspect of a marriage. Difficulties in sex destabilize connection.
View ArticleWhat Does Your Partner's "Still Face" in Bed Mean?
A "still face" in the bedroom often communicates disconnection from a lover. Managing our own reactivity allows for curiosity to explore what it really means.
View ArticleHow and Why to Talk About Our Sexual Past
A person's sexual life is profoundly revealing about their inner world, secrets, desires and capacities for love and pleasure. Why knowing this could deepen your own intimacy.
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